Note from emanita01:
Attention folks, I did NOT write this, but it is good thought fodder!
I’m becoming increasingly concerned [about] the term “strong woman” and how it is being increasingly used by women who have been hurt and are now obstinate, belligerent, combative, and vindictive as a result.
A real man NEVER has to say “I’m a man”. Boys, unsure of their manhood, are the ones who feel they have to convince others that they are a man. There is no mistaking a real man. Everyone recognizes him when they see him.
Strong women NEVER have to say “I’m a strong woman”. Everyone recognizes strength in a woman when they see her. Feminine strength is usually accompanied by grace, elegance and beauty.
Women who have been seriously hurt are the ones who publicly proclaim to be strong. Tyler Perry said in the movie: Why Did I Get Married II, “It is hard to love a good woman who has had a bad man.”
It becomes difficult for good men, real men, to love the “strong woman” because she has been hurt. She puts up a “strong” shield to prevent that hurt from happening again. She tries to move on and find love with other men. However, she is hurting.
Hurting people tend to hurt other people.
So now she becomes the “player” and either consciously or subconsciously takes her revenge on the next man.
GOD loves to protect his daughters so HE will make sure that she crosses paths with a good man, a real man, but the pain she is carrying will cause her to reject or mistreat him.
The only people [who] can be truly loved are those who are truly loveable. Carrying hurt and pain can make a woman who was once strong, elegant, and lovely very ugly.
It takes real strength and integrity for a woman to retain her internal beauty after she has been hurt emotionally. A woman who has been hurt must forget the hurt, forgive the ones who hurt, and then live, and allow herself to be truly loved.
After she has dealt with a [zero] GOD will see that she receives the 1.